| Sunday 02/26/2006
6:58:01pm |
| Name: |
Sandi Brenner |
| Homepage: |
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| E-Mail: |
sandibrenner@hotmail.com |
| Referred
By: |
Just Surfed In |
| City/Country: |
Toledo OH |
| Comments: |
Hey been there,
done that myself! Can totally relate to abuse from men in my
life. All women need to be aware of cover ups men use to
'catch their prey'-get informed-stay safe-read as much as
you can on abuse symptoms & red flags BEFORE you
commit!!!!! Don't be starry eyed and niave please!! It can
happen to EVERY woman...if it is happening, run like
hell-surf for "abuse red flags" and everything
similar-especially you young ladies-it can & will affect
the rest of your life. |
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| Monday 01/30/2006
2:30:36am |
| Name: |
Samuel McDole |
| Homepage: |
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| E-Mail: |
germansoilder84@yahoo.com |
| Referred
By: |
Search Engine |
| City/Country: |
Clearfield, Utah |
| Comments: |
Hi. I liked what
you posted. And was wondering if there are books out there
that help men that are abused in there relationship. Because
she say I'm the abuser and she isn't. I Don't know if i'm
But from what i have read here I'm not. But I want the
relationship to work. But if i don't understand what's going
on i want be able to. |
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| Monday 01/30/2006
2:29:01am |
| Name: |
Samuel McDole |
| Homepage: |
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| E-Mail: |
germansoilder84@excite.com |
| Referred
By: |
Search Engine |
| City/Country: |
Clearfield, Utah |
| Comments: |
Hi. I liked what
you posted. And was wondering if there are books out there
that help men that are abused in there relationship. |
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| Wednesday
01/25/2006 6:37:54pm |
| Name: |
MELISSA |
| Homepage: |
http://YAHOO |
| E-Mail: |
CABINCRKLADY@YAHOO.COM |
| Referred
By: |
Just Surfed In |
| City/Country: |
CHARLESTON, WV |
| Comments: |
VERY INTERESTING,
AND QUITE FAMILIAR. |
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| Sunday 10/16/2005
1:04:33pm |
| Name: |
Marie Waldrep |
| Homepage: |
http://www.geocities.com/marie_w89/themightyphoenixindex.html |
| E-Mail: |
themightyphoenix1survivors@yahoo.com |
| Referred
By: |
Just Surfed In |
| City/Country: |
USA |
| Comments: |
I commend you on
speaking out about domestic violence and abuse. It is not an
easy thing to do but if we stick together in not letting
these matters stay silent then maybe one day we will be
safer from those that like to use and abuse us. Take gentle
care of you.
God bless you,
Marie |
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| Saturday
04/16/2005 3:30:38pm |
| Name: |
Laura |
| Homepage: |
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| E-Mail: |
stil19@aol.com |
| Referred
By: |
Just Surfed In |
| City/Country: |
Dallas, TX USA |
| Comments: |
How funny,
I nicknamed my now ex, a classic Socio/Psychopath, after he
almost smothered me to death in my bed,
"FREAKSHOW".
That's the only way I can describe him.
-Laura in Dallas |
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| Tuesday 03/15/2005
2:19:50am |
| Name: |
Angela |
| Homepage: |
http://Yahoo
Au NZ |
| E-Mail: |
angelahaigh6666@hotmail.com |
| Referred
By: |
Search Engine |
| City/Country: |
Perth |
| Comments: |
I have been woken
to my husbands behaviour & might I say by my
parents-in-law! I KNEW THERE WAS SOMETHING WRONG and it wasn't
me! it wasn't in my head it wasn't my imagination! he has
never physically hurt me but I still feel empty and alone
can I turn him around before I totally hate him? He is
slowly killing himself from diabetes we found out last week
he had it but I found him stuffing his face with a pastie!
and he had bags of chips in his drawer @ THE HOSPITAL! Am I
to late is there hope for him can he be the person I know is
in there ....somewhere? I do love him is it enough? Your
post has confirmed what my in-laws have said although they
say it can be changed can it? |
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| Monday 03/07/2005
2:31:24pm |
| Name: |
Robin Blankenship |
| Homepage: |
http://sbc
yahoo |
| E-Mail: |
robinb35675458@sbcglobal.net |
| Referred
By: |
Just Surfed In |
| City/Country: |
Mesquite Texas
75150 972*681-0742 |
| Comments: |
after 26 years of
trying to reach deep into my husband's heart and find his
conscience that I felt he was just repressing I have finally
realized it never existed. It took a lie about my dead step-
sister ( died less than a year ago) in order to gain
sympathy from his current girlfriend, by telling her that
they had a child together and put it up for adoption just to
get sympathy from her. He had only seen her 3 times in 26
years. His girlfriend called me and thought she was going to
hurt me with the truth because of some horrible thing he
told her I did. That was the second time in 1 1/2 years he
made up illegitimate child lies and been caught and
confronted. There have been all kinds of horrible things he
has done that I am just now finding out about. He acted like
a big ole softy when appropriate. And charmed us all. It
started unraveling for him when he started staying so drunk
he couldn't keep up with his lies. I worked so I didn't see
all this @#%$!. When I stopped working to take care of his
Grandmother (owns a liquor store and lives right next door
to it, he lives with her) I started realizing how conniving
and just down right evil she was while she hid behind her
bible and that she could care less about her own children
unless it was to her benefit. I started looking closer at
him. As he was her GOLDEN CHILD. This man has become her on
alcohol. He has threatened to kill me so many times. He just
started that when I confronted him about his lies. He got
physical only a handful of times in 23 years that we lived
together and of course it was my fault when he bothered to
acknowledge it even happened. I kicked him out because of it
in July of 2001. When he turned on our son I lost it and
went after him. At 4 ft 10 to 6 ft 2 I was stopped only when
a family member picked me up and removed me so it wouldn't
get worse. I had him charged with assault and the only
person to benefit was the state when he had to pay the
fines. He has friends on the force due to the family
business. Later when I mentioned treatment for his drinking,
his grandmother threatened to kill herself if he couldn't
stay with her. Then I confronted her about all her lies and
the pain she caused with them. She stared out in space like
I was invisible. I then started educating myself. I feel
like a idiot. I really thought I could reach him. That one
day I would say the one thing that would wake him up and
make him see what he has done to us. I wish I would have
paid more attention to things early in our marriage, I just
had so many other things going on. And I was very removed
from his family by choice. They were all drunks and got on
my nerves. So holidays and Birthdays were about it. I
finally got a clue when I had no choice but to spend time
around them to take care of the Matriarch. The smart ones
know what is going on and stay away. Of course both of them
act like the victims. When people try to reason with them,
it does not go well. So far my husband has had his new
friends vandalize my home, make untraceable threatening
calls etc. His lies have cost me 23,000 dollars and no way
to pay even a lawyer to help me. There are 26 years of
things that would take me forever to list and I can't even
afford a divorce or to move. Thank heavens that we only see
him 1 a month at best. I just started to put all this
together a year and a half ago, and he had me convinced it
was all me. It is funny how I read people so well except for
the devils in front of me. I am trying not to be cynical but
it is so hard.
Thank you for a forum to say this. I have never said any of
this to anyone except for my immediate family members how
have witnessed it for themselves. We all admired him for a
long time. And I am sure they even thought it was me that
was the problem. That is until he used the death of my
sister for his own twisted purposes. That woke us all up. I
could write all day about this. I can't say thank you enough
Love Robin Blankenship |
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Date
February 11, 2001
Name alexandra
Email goldmine33@hotmail.com
Home
page
City toronto
State ontario
Country
canada
Comments
Date February 2, 2001
Name Laura
Foster
Email matildabug@aol.com
Home page
City Roxboro
State North
Carolina
Country USA
Comments Many thank yous for creating this website.
There are too many of us out there who have no place to turn, who are struggling
to regain their sense of self, who long for affirmation from someone who has
been there, too. Your page helped to redefine what happened to me. I will
survive with God's grace and help, but I still have a long walk ahead of
me.
Date January 20, 2001
Name Teresa Brady
Email
Curleet0p@cs.com
Home page
City Antioch
State TN
Country
USA
Comments I can't believe what I just read. It, almost word for word,
exactly described my ex-brother-in-law. I have been looking, for some time, for
a way to describe his behavior toward my sister and her children. He has had
fourteen jobs in the past eight years. He has embezzled money from one, yet got
out of any type of trouble for it and sees nothing wrong with what he did. He
uses his parents to pay his child support in order to stay out of jail. He lives
with another woman, doesn't currently have a job, and she allows him to drive
her to and from her place of employment, with her vehicle, and then does
whatever he feels like doing. He puts the children in the middle of everything
that goes on between he and my sister, using them, possibly abusing them, as
they have nightmares almost every night, usually after they have spent time with
their father. What can we do? He needs not to have any further contact with my
sister and more importantly with his children. They are so young, yet even
though they are constantly in court beca
Date January 16,
2001
Name Judith Firehammer
Email firehammerJ@aol.com
Home page
http://www.strategum.com/research
City
State
Country
Comments I am a
graduate student working on my doctoral dissertation in clinical psychology at
the California School of Professional Psychology-Alameda. My study examines the
experiences and recovery of rape survivors. Participation in the study will
provide valuable information that may help therapists and counselors understand
the impact and recovery process of rape. Volunteers must be: -Women -At least 18
years old -Residents of the United States -Raped as an adult by a male
-Assaulted between 3 months and 10 years ago The study involves answering a
written survey by mail. The survey will take about one and a half hours to
complete. You will be asked about your experiences after being raped and your
efforts to recover from the assault. Your answers will be anonymous. You will
receive $15 for completing and returning the survey. If you think you would like
to participate in this study, please contact me to obtain the survey or for more
information. Thank you, Judith Firehammer,M.A. California School of Professional
Psychology 510-704-9252
Date January 12, 2001
Name
Rhiannon3_
Email keyer@rhiannon3.com
Home page
http://www.rhiannon3.com
City
State NC
Country USA
Comments Thanks
for visiting us at Rhiannon3.com. I love the detailed info on your site and
enjoyed my visit. Rhiannon3_
Date January 8, 2001
Name Suzanne
Oxenham
Email suzanne481@aol.com
Home page
City
oxford
State
Country england
Comments I am 90%+ sure that my partner of
12 years (on off on off!!) is a psychopath. I have told him so... and true to
form... he was amused. He fulfills all criteria I have ever seen listed and my
life with him has been a nightmare of financial and social problem. I have so
much I could tell you, because I have stayed around... and although my life may
never be straightforward... I have learned strategies to gain some security for
myself... for the record whatever happens... he very much wants a life with
me... this is sometimes my only opportunity of exercising some control in my
life.
Date December 20, 2000
Name Michelle
Email
michjones16@hotmail.com
Home page
City So Elgin
State Ill
Country
USA
Comments I am in a abusive relationship. You site has given me info that
has blown me away. Thank you.
Date December 4, 2000
Name
Cynthia
Email Kitsquaw7@aol.com
Home page
City Lubbock
State
Texas
Country United States
Comments Thank You
Date November
25, 2000
Name michelle Parker
Email michelle__0400@hotmail.com
Home
page
City Temecula
State CA
Country US
Comments Thank you for
displaying your story on the internet. It has helped me in so many ways to see
the light. I have been struggling with coming to the conclusion that my husband
is mentally abusive. So many of the definitions on your page describe him
perfectly. Thank you again. Michelle
Date November 25, 2000
Name
Madeleine Bullock
Email madeleine@tds.net
Home page
City
Mentone
State Al
Country U.S.A
Comments Thank you for the info. I have
been divorced for over a year and it is still going on, the abuse, now I am
going to leave the country to try and get away from it, but I know, the only
time I and the boys will be free is when he is dead, like the last marriage
vow...till death do us part.
Date October 24, 2000
Name Cathy
Bower
Email ticbower@aol.com
Home page
City Santa Rosa
State
CA
Country USA
Comments Unfortunately, much of what your website included
on emotional and verbal abuse hit too close to home. I am removing myself from a
17-year marriage that was apparently based on such things. My biggest goal is to
ensure that my daughter, now 8, can escape the cycles of abuse yet still have an
intact and loving relationship with her father. Thank you a thousand times over
for your wonderfully comforting words; to know one is not alone in these things
is sad, yet to know others have prevailed brings hope.
Date October
2, 2000
Name Renee Rolin
Email mom36532@aol.com
Home page moms little
corner
City fairhope
State alabama
Country united states
Comments
thank you for your information and wisdom, knowing that i was not alone is of
great help.
Date September 10, 2000
Name sherree huckleberry
(question45@askme.com
Email indyhuck@aol.com
Home page
otherwords@aolhomepage
City Indep
State MO
Country USA
Comments I
dont get beat up but I'd prefer it if I did To this 'life' and all in my heart
that's hid. I cant say I'll be allright nut I'll NEVER be the same. I CAN say
"I'm not all right and I cannot be the same." Whatever can be done to the human
body or spirit, mine has made it's acquaintance. "Aloneliness" is my
name.
Date September 10, 2000
Name Gail
Email
Daisylou4ever@aol.com
Home page
http://www.wgbowen.com/ifihadknown.html
City
State Georgia
Country
USA
Comments Thank you for having this page on the internet. I was reading it
in order to find a resource for Abuse which I hope to write as my next web page.
Your site is excellent and I hope to link to you from my newest page. Abuse has
to be stopped, physical abuse is abudant in this world, but mental abuse is
taking a greater toll. Mental abuse is the easiest to hide, but it leaves the
scars just as well. God Bless You in your work and for being there with
information for people to read.
Date September 2, 2000
Name
Heather
Email heathers2mkys@aol.com
Home page
City Concord
State
NH
Country
Comments I am currently in an abusive relationship, with a 17mo
old son. I had no idea what else could be around the corner for me until now. I
still feel helpless, yet educated. Thank you for this site.
Date
August 30, 2000
Name shelley
Email petespad3@aol.com
Home page
City
manteca
State ca
Country usa
Comments thank you. i need to love myself
1st and it will fall into place.
Date August 29, 2000
Name Rosie
Ward
Email rward@accrue.com
Home page none
City Hayward
State
CA
Country USA
Comments I am a DV Victim abused by my ex as well as his
mother, lawyer, family court services, and also the judge. It is a never ending
nightmare with my 7 year old son caught in the middle. Thanks for any support
you can give me.
Date August 29, 2000
Name Rosie Ward
Email
rward@accrue.com
Home page none
City Fremont
State CA
Country
Alameda
Comments I am a DV Victim abused by my ex as well as his mother,
lawyer, family court services, and also the judge. It is a never ending
nightmare with my 7 year old son caught in the middle. Thanks for any support
you can give me.
Date August 28, 2000
Name reborn_96
Email
reborn_96@yahoo.com
Home page
www.geocities.com/reborn_96
City
State
Country
Comments What a
wonderful site. Blessings and enpowering be with your ministry!
Date
August 22, 2000
Name vicki kallembach
Email galleynipper@aol.com
Home
page
City louisville
State ky.
Country usa
Comments thank you for
giving me what i believed already, that I'm not crazy!
Date August 1,
2000
Name George Shull
Email geoshir@gateway.net
Home page
http://angeralternatives.anthill.com
City Rockford
State ILL
Country
USA
Comments A fantastic site - blows away anything I've seen. FYI - My
information is that the author of "Dawn" is Veronica Shoffstall. I'd like to
trade web links with you. I haven't done that before, but I'm going to publicize
your site widely. My site should be back on one of these days.
Date
July 26, 2000
Name Theresa Torres
Email dt69tery@neteze.com
Home
page
City Nevada City
State CA
Country Nevada
Comments I really like
your site, I wish it had been there for me when I was with a abuser, it may have
helped me get out sooner. In any case, better late then never.
Date
July 7, 2000
Name Graycie
Email
Home
page
City
State
Country
Comments Hi, I was going thru the replys to
LadiBees posting of "After the Dawn", & read your mention of your web site.
I just want to say thank you for so vividly bringing the plight of suffering
women to the forefront,....and "Well Done" on your site! See ya on the
board.................. Graycie
Date July 7, 2000
Name Bonnie
Porter
Email bpidea@auracom.com
Home page
City Oshawa
State
Ont
Country CDA
Comments Great site!! You are doing an amazing job for
other women who have had the awful experience of violence or abuse in their
lives. Thanks for all you do. Keep up the good work. Bonnie...I.D.E.A.'s for
Women Program
Date July 6, 2000
Name Rev. Keala
Richardson
Email keala@nethawaii.net
Home page
http://www.phone-counseling.com/abuse.hmtl
City Volcano
State
Hawaii
Country US
Comments Aloha - I'm adding your link to my page today
and it should be up by tommorow. I checked back at your site but couldn't find
the resources page- perhaps I'm blind, well actually I am pretty much. But
anyway was just looking for my link. ALoha ANd Blessings- Keala